I don’t read them. I check my spam filter every few days just to make sure I’m not missing something, but it’s all Luis Vuitton bags, weight loss pills, and 3-4 paragraph long comments from everyone’s favorite troll.
When I started this blog, she was one of the first people to find it and comment on it. She trolls the adultery, infidelity, and affair tags on WordPress looking for new victims to harass. Other readers tried to warn me, but I was new to blogging. I thought, “I’ll just give her a chance. Maybe these people just don’t like her and are trying to make her look bad.”
That was at first. After a week or so, I came to realize they were right. There wasn’t anything I could post that would meet her standards for how repentance and remorse should look. I don’t think she deliberately does it because I’ve come to believe she is mentally ill. She apparently has some sort of compulsion that drives her to spend hours each day trolling blogs and writing comments knowing that they are going straight in the trash. I have had her sent to spam for over a month and she still replies to every single post I make.
And it’s not just cheater blogs, she trolls everybody who isn’t making the exact same choices she does. Over the weekend I read a blog from a man who was betrayed, and, sure enough, she was in the comments telling him how wrong he was for not doing things “the right way.” He tried to respectfully disagree and then to “agree to disagree,” but she was incapable of allowing even the slightest disagreement.
I have not personally witnessed it, but I’ve heard stories of her harassing people who have not even had affairs. Because her husband and his affair partner both claimed to be struggling with depression or bipolar disorder before their affair, she has taken it upon herself to be nasty to sufferers of these conditions.
She sees things as black and white, and if you’re black she will harass you and be nasty towards you. If you don’t appreciate it and tell her off, she takes that as confirmation that she was right about you. The best thing to do with a person like that is ignore them. Send them to spam or trash and don’t read, don’t react, don’t respond.
The only reason I’m writing this is because there are a lot of other bloggers out there who don’t know how unhinged this person is. I’m doing this as a community service. If she has been nasty towards you or if she has harassed you, please post your story in the comments. If you see her commenting on someone else’s blog, especially a new blogger, please link this post so they will know she is a toxic, obsessive-compulsive, judgmental lunatic. Hopefully we can prevent her from harming any more people with her bad advice and harassing behavior.